Prostate Orgasm: 5 Tips for Having a Prostate Orgasm

The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system that produces the prostatic fluid that mixes with sperm to form ejaculate (or semen). Located in front of the rectum, between the bladder and the penis, the prostate includes muscles that expel semen through the urethra during ejaculation. In addition to its role in the reproductive system, the prostate can be stimulated for sexual pleasure and produce intense orgasms. In this capacity, the prostate has earned the nickname "the P-spot."

A prostate orgasm is an orgasm achieved by massaging the prostate gland (sometimes called "prostate milking") with direct stimulation from a finger, penis, or sex toy. Prostate orgasms are typically more intense than penile orgasms and may even trigger muscle contractions caused by a euphoric full-body orgasm. This pleasurable sensation is partially attributable to the fact that the prostate gland is surrounded by thousands of sensitive nerve endings that normally go untouched.

Before you can experience prostate pleasure, you first need to know how to find the prostate, which is located below the bladder near the rectum. It is easier to find the prostate when you are sexually aroused because arousal triggers additional blood flow to the prostate, causing it to swell to a larger size. Partaking in foreplay or masturbation beforehand will make finding the prostate easier.

You can stimulate the prostate externally by massaging the area between the scrotum and anus—the perineum, or taint. While external prostate play can be pleasurable, anal penetration is generally required to produce a powerful prostate-induced orgasm. To find the prostate, insert your finger or an anal toy into the anus about two to four inches deep. Angle your finger or prostate toy toward the belly button, and you should feel the prostate through the rectum's front wall. It’s about the size of a walnut and will feel firm.

Any type of anal sex can be intimidating the first time. Before you try it, discuss partaking in anal stimulation with your partner so that you're certain you have their consent.

1. 1. Start with your finger. Until your partner feels comfortable with prostate play, use your finger instead of a sex toy since it's typically smaller and you have more control. For the most comfortable experience, trim your fingernails and wear a glove, finger cot, or condom over your finger.
2. 2. Use lots of lube. As with all types of anal play, it's crucial that you use lube for maximum comfort. First, apply lubricant around the rim of the anus and then inside as well (you can make this part of your foreplay). Once your partner feels loosened up, apply more lube to your finger or prostate toy before insertion.
3. 3. Give your partner time to feel at ease. Refrain from immediately massaging the prostate. Instead, give your partner at least thirty seconds to simply grow accustomed to the feeling of your finger in their body. Once they are relaxed, begin moving your finger.
4. 4. Try several massaging techniques. There are numerous ways you can massage the prostate, but it's best to begin slowly and build up speed and pressure once you know your partner enjoys a particular motion. Using the pad of your fingertip, stroke the prostate using a "come here" motion. You can also try tapping it, stroking it in a circular motion, or even putting pressure on it without moving your finger at all. Ask for your partner's feedback, and pay attention to how they respond to each technique.
5. 5. Enhance pleasure by using an anal toy. Once your partner is used to your finger and expresses interest in further exploring their prostate's sensations, look into purchasing a prostate toy. Prostate massagers, anal-safe vibrators, and butt plugs all work wonders to help you give your partner a powerful prostate orgasm.

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