Prostate Massager Guide: 6 Tips for Using a Prostate Massager

The prostate gland is a walnut-sized organ that rests beneath the bladder and above the base of the penis in front of the rectum. The prostate produces fluid that combines with sperm cells from the testicles and seminal vesicle fluid to create semen. The prostate pushes that seminal fluid into the urethra, which runs down to the penis. Stimulating the prostate gland (also known as the P-spot) via prostate massage, whether internal or external, can enhance the intensity of an orgasm.

Prostate massagers are a type of anal sex toy designed to stimulate the prostate gland. Most massagers have smooth, rounded tips for easy insertion into the anus. They’re generally curved so as to press against the part of the rectum that rests alongside the prostate. Prostate massagers are typically made from medical grade silicone or stainless steel.

Many prostate massagers have a vibration mode for added stimulation, and some are designed with an external component that presses against your perineum, a sensitive erogenous zone between your anus and your scrotum. If you’re looking to purchase a prostate massager, make sure to get one with a flared base to ensure that it won’t accidentally slip inside your anus.

Consider these tips before using a prostate massager.

1. 1. Maintain good hygiene. Attention to cleanliness is important for any form of anal play. Proper anal sex safety reduces the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and bacteria. Before trying a prostate massage, use the bathroom and clean yourself thoroughly with a warm bath or shower. Wash your prostate massager before and after every use.
2. 2. Get comfortable. The muscles in and around your anus need time to relax. Light some candles, put on some sexy music, and ease into the experience. If you are engaging in a prostate massage with a partner, be sure to take your time with foreplay. Once you are relaxed and turned on, find a position that gives you easy access for prostate stimulation. Consider lying on your back with your knees up, or face down on your stomach with your partner behind you.
3. 3. Use lots of lube. With any form of anal penetration, a generous amount of is essential. Identify the type of lubricant that works best for you, and then keep it close during a prostate massage. Reapply lube often. Without proper lubrication, you run the risk of tearing the sensitive tissue in your rectum.
4. 4. Start with a finger. Before using a sex toy for prostate massage, consider working your way up to it by trying fingering first. For comfort, trim your fingernails or wear a glove. After applying lube, slide your finger an inch or two into the anus, and hold it there for a moment, allowing your sphincter muscles to get used to the sensation. Once comfortable, slide your finger deeper until you feel a rough bump about three inches inside your rectum. Rub your finger lightly against the upper side of your rectum towards the base of the penis in a “come hither” motion. If you are performing this on a partner, make sure to communicate well, and listen carefully to what feels good and what doesn’t. If there is discomfort or pain, remove your finger slowly.
5. 5. Find the right prostate massager for you. While prostate stimulation is possible with other types of anal sex toys, like anal beads and butt blugs, prostate massagers are designed specifically to enhance the pleasure zone around your prostate. Do your research to find a prostate massager that comes in the right size and material for you. When you have a prostate massager you’re comfortable using, insert it slowly, and use it as you would your finger to gently stimulate the prostate. Prostate orgasm is possible, but you’ll likely need to stimulate other erogenous zones, including the penis, to achieve orgasm.
6. 6. Talk with your doctor about prostate problems. If you are considering prostate massage therapy as a treatment for a prostate condition, consult a medical professional first. A doctor may perform a prostate exam in order to identify prostate cancer or chronic prostatitis, an inflammation of the prostate gland. While antibiotics and nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs are typically used to address prostatitis, your doctor may also suggest prostate massage therapy as a treatment. If you experience pain during ejaculation, pelvic pain, or difficulty with your urine flow, talk to your doctor immediately.

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