Lingam Massage: How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage

A lingam massage is a tantric form of sexual activity that involves massaging the penis. Tantric sex is one component of tantra, a spiritual belief system from India that focuses on mind-body connections. “Tantra” is a Sanskrit word meaning “weave,” and “lingam” translates to “wand of light” and refers to male genitalia.

A lingam massage relies on eye contact, deep breathing, and genitalia stimulation to bring partners closer together and invite full-body pleasure. This type of massage therapy works well for partners. Still, individuals can perform lingam massages as masturbation. (Another tantric massage is the yoni massage, which focuses on the vulva.)

Tantric body massages offer deeper and more considered ways of approaching a partner’s body. Consider the benefits of a tantric penis massage:

1. 1. Lingam massage can lead to a deeper connection. Whether exploring tantric sexuality with a partner or on your own, the practice can make you more in tune with the sexual experience. Through breathing, massage, or partner-based methods like eye contact, you can unlock a deeper connection with yourself or your partner for a more intimate experience.
2. 2. Lingam massage encourages mindfulness. From work to finances, everyone juggles daily stressors. These concerns and stressors can invade the bedroom, making it difficult to give or receive sexual pleasure. Tantric sex releases you from distractions and zeros in on your body (or your partner’s), helping you center yourself in the present moment, harnessing your sexual energy, and allowing you to enjoy better sex.
3. 3. Lingam massage often extends intercourse. Tantric sex aims for a slow, thoughtful interaction that allows you to explore and relax rather than rush toward achieving orgasm. From long sessions of foreplay to edging (a sexual practice that involves cycles of intense stimulation while holding off climax for increased pleasure), tantric sex often lasts longer than traditional sexual intercourse. This can lead to a richer sex life and deeper relaxation for your well-being.
4. 4. Lingam massage releases partners from expectations. Many people approach sex—be it the first time or not—with certain expectations or concerns. For instance, the expectation that penetration will occur or the concerns around whether you or your partner will climax. The goal of tantric sex is to release you from those expectations. You can enjoy tantric sexuality with or without penetration, orgasm, or even a partner. Letting go of these expectations can help you relax and enjoy the present moment, promoting more spiritual wellness around the sexual experience.

Giving a lingam massage involves more time and technique than a hand job. Learn how to initiate, sustain, and improve an erotic lingam massage:

1. 1. Assume a comfortable position. A lingam massage should be a slow, gradual massage session. Let your partner lie down on a bed or a comfortable space. Dim the lights and play soothing music as a form of foreplay.
2. 2. Breathe deeply. Breath is key to tantric sex practices. Before initiating physical contact, lock your eyes and take deep breaths in sync. This breath and sustained eye contact might already lead to stimulation as blood flows to the penis.
3. 3. Lather hands with oils or lube. At this phase, there may be some penis enlargement. Take a tablespoon of massage oil, coconut oil, essential oil, or lube, and lather it on your hands.
4. 4. Massage the entire body. Start with a full body massage to relax your partner, then massage the inner thighs before touching the phallus. Apply gentle pressure and rub hands in opposite directions. Then, move to the scrotum and loosely fondle it.
5. 5. Move to the shaft. When the penis is fully erect, apply oil onto the head of the penis, maintaining eye contact throughout. Clasp the shaft and move your hand up and down with a slight twisting motion. Continue deep breathing; the penis size may vary as blood moves in and out.
6. 6. Play with speed. As the penis engorges, increase the speed of the massage. If it gets smaller, slow down the speed and move back to massages around the penis (by the hips, the thigh, and the lower stomach). The goal of a lingam massage is not to have an orgasm but to create a sensual experience. The penis owner may experience premature ejaculation or an orgasm; continue massaging until the partner says they want to stop.
7. 7. Rub erogenous zones. Stimulate other erogenous zones, including the testicles and the perineum, the area between the scrotum and the anus. To go further, give a sacred spot or prostate massage. Use the index finger and middle finger or an anal sex toy to stimulate the prostate, a walnut-sized gland between the bladder and penis.

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