Sitting on Face: 5 Tips for Sitting on Face

Face sitting is a sex position where one partner mounts another person’s face, bringing their genitals into contact with the other’s mouth for oral stimulation. In the most common variation, the bottom partner lies on their back and the other person straddles their head, gently resting their weight on the bottom partner’s chest or hovering just above their mouth. Face sitting is a popular way to change the power dynamic around oral sex, giving the receiving partner a stronger sense of control.

Here’s how to get into the face-sitting position:

1. 1. Lie your partner on their back. For the most comfortable face-sitting position, lie your partner on their back on a supportive surface like a bed or floor.
2. 2. Place one knee on one side of their face. To get into position, first place your right knee on the left side of the other person’s face.
3. 3. Swing your other knee to the other side of their face. Make this motion slowly to avoid bringing your knee into contact with their nose or chin.
4. 4. Lower down until it’s comfortable for both partners. Use your thigh muscles to gently lower yourself down until the bottom partner can comfortably reach your genitals.
5. 5. Try out different positions. While sitting on your partner’s face, you’re free to experiment with different angles and motions to find the stimulation that feels best for you. Consider gyrating your hips, moving forward or backward, or pressing gently down to increase pressure.
6. 6. Dismount slowly. When finished, slowly swing your knee back over the bottom partner’s body, being careful to avoid hitting their face.

Here are tips for incorporating face sitting into your sex life:

1. 1. Consider switching places. Face sitting is an especially asymmetrical position, which means that each participant experiences significantly different types of pleasures; the top partner can experience oral stimulation and a feeling of control, while the bottom partner can experience the enjoyment of giving pleasure and the feeling of submissiveness. If both pleasure pathways interest you, try both roles—spend time sitting on your partner’s face and letting them sit on your face.
2. 2. Experiment with different angles. Try out variations of the position to see what feels best for you. You may prefer sitting farther back on your partner’s chest while they lift their head for genital access or leaning your upper body forward to rest on your elbows to reduce pressure on your knees and hips. You can also experiment with your mounting position, mounting their face while facing forward (giving them the best access to your genitals) or while facing backward (giving them the best access to your anus for anal stimulation). You can also try out the closely related sixty-nine position, which allows both partners to stimulate each other simultaneously.
3. 3. Introduce additional stimulation. There are plenty of ways to add additional stimulation to the face-sitting position. The top partner can use their hands or a sex toy to pleasure themselves, or the bottom partner can use a butt plug, dildo, or vibrator so they can feel genital pleasure while performing oral sex. Face sitting is also a versatile position for threesomes or group sex since both partners’ bodies are easily accessible to other participants.
4. 4. Prepare with a good personal hygiene routine. Since face-sitting is a particularly close and intimate position where one person has extended oral contact with the other person’s genitals, it’s essential to practice good hygiene beforehand. Consider rinsing or showering before intercourse to freshen up and remove sweat and odor from the day’s activities; you can even use the hygiene time as fun foreplay.
5. 5. Use your weight to increase stimulation. In the face-sitting position, you can use your weight to gently press down on your partner’s mouth, increasing the pressure that their lips and tongue make against your genitals. This is especially useful for vulva owners who enjoy pressure against their clitoris. Many people enjoy the feeling of additional weight on their face in this position, and it’s an especially popular turn-on in fetish communities, including BDSM.

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