Hands-Free Orgasms: 11 Ways to Achieve a Hands-Free Orgasm

A hands-free orgasm refers to any orgasm that occurs without stimulating your genitals using your own hands. There are many ways to achieve this type of orgasm on your own or with a partner through wearable toys, oral, vaginal, or anal sex, bondage play, or sexual fantasy. Some people enjoy having hands-free orgasms to experiment with different sensations in their sex life or get in touch with the holistic pleasure possible throughout their body, rather than centering the pleasure in their genitals. Achieving a hands-free orgasm depends on your body and stimulation preferences—some people cannot climax without manual stimulation.

Here are a few popular ways to have a hands-free orgasm:

1. 1. Oral or penetrative sex: You can achieve a hands-free orgasm during partnered sex. During intercourse or oral sex, keep your hands out of the way, allowing your partner to give you the pleasure you need to climax. Don’t be discouraged if you ultimately need to stimulate yourself with your hands to orgasm—it’s common for some people to require additional stimulation or masturbation to climax.
2. 2. Humping: Humping, or using your hips to grind your genitals against a surface, object, or person, is another way to pleasure yourself without using your hands. For vulva owners, find an object or piece of furniture that feels good against your clitoris, like a pillow or the arm of a chair. For penis owners, find an object or piece of furniture that feels good around your penis, like the crevice between two couch cushions, a rolled-up blanket, or a pillow. Grind your hips and rub into the object for hands-free stimulation.
3. 3. BDSM play: BDSM is a popular way to decentralize sensation in your body and explore stimulation in other places, especially with a partner. One way to experience a hands-free orgasm with BDSM is to have your partner tie you up or put you in handcuffs so that you can’t stimulate your genitals with your hands, giving your partner ultimate control of your pleasure. Blindfolds, dirty talk, and spanking tools are standard tools to spark your arousal during BDSM play.
   
4. 4. Nipple play: Some people can orgasm solely through nipple stimulation. To experiment with this form of stimulation, use your hands, some nipple clamps, or a soft object like a feather to explore different sensations around your nipples, bringing you to orgasm without any genital stimulation.
5. 5. Toys with suction cups: There are many hands-free sex toys that you can use to stimulate yourself without using your hands, like a dildo or other penetrative toy equipped with a suction cup at the bottom. By attaching the toy to a hard surface, you can bounce on the toy for vaginal or anal pleasure without needing to hold the toy with your hands.
6. 6. Wearable toys: Wearable toys are a fun, hands-free option available in various shapes and sizes. Strap-on dildos, insertable vibrators, or couples vibrators are all popular toys to wear on your body for hands-free pleasure. For many vulva owners, wearable toys that stimulate the clitoris or prostate are a reliable way to achieve a hands-free orgasm, whether masturbating or during partner play.
7. 7. Water play: Water currents are powerful stimulants that can be great for hands-free orgasms, especially for vulva owners who enjoy stimulation to the clitoris. To experiment with water play, lie in the bathtub with your genitals under the faucet, and let the water current stimulate you as it comes out. Perform the same routine with a showerhead or even a bidet waterjet to stimulate your anus or vulva.
8. 8. Tantric sex: Tantric sex is a method of sexual intercourse that aims to achieve mindfulness and deep connection for its participants. Many tantra practices are hands-free (or even touch-free), including sexual experiences like breathwork, prolonged eye contact, embraces, massage, and slow, deliberate intercourse.
9. 9. Orgasmic breathing: Breathing exercises are a great way to better connect with your entire body and feel more in tune with the holistic experience of pleasure. Orgasmic breathing is a difficult method of hands-free orgasm, but it can be gratifying if you can make it work. To explore orgasmic breathing, get into a comfortable position, and focus on slow, deep breathing, in through your nose and out through your mouth. When you inhale, allow your breath to extend down to your pelvic floor, relaxing and increasing the area’s blood flow. Begin experimenting with flexing and releasing your abdomen muscles and pelvic floor muscles (similar to Kegel exercises) as you breathe. You may not be able to achieve orgasm the first time. It can take many sessions to determine what feels best and brings you closest to orgasm during orgasmic breathing. Still, the holistic orgasms that you can achieve can be gratifying.
10. 10. Sexual fantasizing: Sexual fantasizing is one of the most challenging ways to have a hands-free orgasm since it’s wholly touch-free—relying on the power of your mind and mental state to increase your arousal and bring you to orgasm. To explore sexual fantasizing, get in a comfortable position, and begin thinking about a sexual fantasy that arouses you. Let your hands explore parts of your body while you fantasize—as long as you don’t stimulate your genitals directly. If you find your mind wandering, try introducing erotica like porn or erotic audio to help keep your focus on your fantasy.
11. 11. Erotic hypnosis: Erotic hypnosis is a type of mediation that aims to immerse you in sexual fantasy. This form of hypnosis seeks to help you access your inner erotic energy without any direct physical stimulation. Erotic hypnosis is similar to guided meditation, where a guide leads you through the experience. Start by looking up prerecorded erotic hypnosis video or audio recordings or seeking a professional sexologist or sex hypnotist who can provide guidance.

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