Spooning Sexual Positions: Tips for Spooning Sex

Spooning sex is sexual intercourse—either vaginal or anal sex—that occurs in the spooning position. There are several variations of this position, but typically, the penetrating partner lies behind the receiving partner, allowing the latter’s buttocks to align with the former’s pelvis (just like the cuddling position for spooning). In addition to being an easy position to get into, spooning can increase the feeling of connection and intimacy between two partners.

There are many ways to have spooning sex. Here are some common variations:

1. 1. Intertwining legs: This position is optimal for G-spot and clitoral stimulation in vulva owners. Start in the traditional spooning arrangement (side by side). Next, the little spoon partner wraps one of their legs (typically the top one) back around the top of the big spoon’s legs. Alternatively, the big spoon partner can wrap their top leg around the little spoon’s body for extra skin-to-skin contact.
2. 2. Little spoon topping big spoon: This position is the same as the classic spooning position but rotated vertically. The big spoon partner lays flat on their back, and the little spoon partner lays on top of them with their back against the big spoon’s chest.
3. 3. Seated spooning: This position is similar to seated reverse cowgirl, with both bodies touching from chest to feet. However, instead of lying sideways, both partners sit in a chair. As one of the many great sex positions in a chair, this spooning variation gives the receiving partner lots of leverage to move around and shift their weight to achieve the best angle.
4. 4. Spooning doggy style: The classic spooning position involves the giving partner penetrating the receiving partner in the classic “big spoon/little spoon” arrangement. The receiving partner can also bend their legs to change the penetration angle. Learn more about the doggy-style sex position.

Follow these tips for practicing spooning sex safely.

1. 1. Ease into the position. This position feels different depending on your angle of approach. Experiment with different arrangements for the big spoon or little spoon, taking your time to find something comfortable and pleasurable for both parties.
2. 2. Experiment with angles. The classic side-by-side spooning position offers plenty of angles, depending on the arrangement of the partners’ legs. Try intertwining your legs with your partner’s, or have the little spoon curl their legs toward them. Have the little spoon bend their top leg slightly and raise it in the air for G-spot stimulation. Learn more about the G-spot.
3. 3. Give your partner feedback. This position removes face-to-face contact, making it a great opportunity to incorporate dirty talk or tell your partner what feels good.
4. 4. Be adventurous. Since this position may feel familiar quickly—especially if you and your partner cuddle in the spooning position—feel free to get a little adventurous. Incorporate different types of sex toys (like a vibrator or a butt plug) for additional sensations. Stimulate your partner’s erogenous zones (such as their nipples) with your hands.

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