Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position: 5 Tips for Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is a sex position that involves one partner lying face-up as the other partner straddles them while facing away from them. The person lying down can penetrate their partner’s vagina or anus with their penis or a strap-on or other sex toy, and the partner who is on top can grind on their partner or use their fingers or a toy to stimulate themselves and/or their partner. The name “reverse cowgirl” refers to another popular sex position, cowgirl, which is basically the same thing, but with both partners facing each other.

If you’re the one lying down, position yourself comfortably on the bed, propping your head up with pillows. (You can also sit up against a wall or headboard.) Since you won’t be able to move much in this position, make sure you have everything you need close at hand, such as lube, toys, or condoms. You can use your hands to help your partner get into position.

If you’re the one sitting up, straddle your partner’s hips, with your knees on either side of their thighs. Shift backward and forward until you and your partner feel comfortable, then lower yourself down onto your partner. You can rest your bodyweight on your partner or hover above them using your knees for support.

If you think your sex life could benefit from a little reverse cowgirl, use these tips to get started.

1. 1. Begin slowly. As with any new position, it’s important to start slowly to avoid injury and ensure everyone is comfortable—especially if penetration is involved.
2. 2. Have one partner set the rhythm. This position works best if one partner sets the pace. The partner on top is in a superior position to control the depth of penetration or the rhythm of grinding. Once you’re both feeling comfortable, the lying-down partner can take a more active role, placing their hands on their partner’s hips or using their fingers to stimulate their partner.
3. 3. Try a seated variation. In this variation, instead of lying down, one partner sits on the edge of the bed, on a chair, or against a wall, and the other partner sits on their lap facing forward. You can also start out seated, then move into full reverse cowgirl.
4. 4. Look over your shoulder. Not being able to see your partner’s face during sex can feel sexy and mysterious, but sometimes you just want to look them in the eyes. Turn your head over your shoulder or lean back to take a peek at your partner.
5. 5. Use sex toys. Reverse cowgirl is a great position for penetration, so it’s an good choice for strap-on sex. Since this position leaves your hands free, it also provides an opportunity to play with other toys, such as a bullet vibrator.

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