Space in Relationships: How to Create Personal Space

Personal space—also known as “me time”—describes when you spend time on your own. While living life in community brings several benefits, you also need alone time for your mental well-being and growth as a person. Personal space does not always refer to a physical space, though you may choose to go somewhere on your own where you can flourish independently from your relationships. Instead, the term more accurately defines the time we should spend on our own to cultivate our lives.

Most people need time and their own space to continue to develop as a person outside of the influence of others. Asking for space does not mean you want to disconnect from your significant other, close friend, or family member. Instead, it’s an opportunity for you to grow and reconnect with yourself in moments of solitude. This can help you become the best version of yourself, which can, in turn, strengthen your relationships.

Here’s how to create space in your relationships:

1. 1. Assure: Take time to touch base and check in, so your partner, family member, or friend knows that asking for personal space is a healthy measure. Remind them that space is a good thing and that you care about them and their growth. Let them know you also honor and respect their alone time.
2. 2. Consider challenges: When stressful situations arise, some people need more time than others to possess their feelings and deal with change. Give the person you care about the space and time to assess their new situation while letting them know you are there for them if they need help.
3. 3. Know your attachment style: Some people relate to others in different ways. If you like to spend lots of time with your partner or friend, make this clear to them, but also make room for them to explain how they want to navigate their own space. The more you and your loved one know about each others’ attachment styles, the more you can collaborate on healthy relationship dynamics that work.

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