How to Be Romantic: 8 Ways to Show Someone You Care

Romance is a feeling or action that people engage in to display a mutual romantic or love-like attraction. As demonstrated in novels, music, art, and other forms of expression, many cultures throughout history associate romance with the concept of “true love” between partners. Valentine’s Day is a holiday devoted to this very concept.

Romance may begin as a mutual infatuation that develops into something deeper and more consummate as the partners get to know each other. A healthy relationship of this type requires both people to regularly engage in romantic gestures demonstrating how much they care for one another.

Whether you want to find romantic love or deepen an already intimate relationship, there are many ways to show someone you care, including:

1. 1. Be thoughtful. Doing small things for your loved one—like making a playlist of songs that make you think of them or planning a cozy marathon of romantic movies—will build your love relationship over time with your partner.
2. 2. Express yourself. Saying “I love you” and sharing romantic thoughts with your partner openly—by giving them compliments or affirming how much they mean to you—can significantly impact a relationship. Words of affirmation may come naturally early on in your love affair, but it’s important to continue to share your thoughts across the course of your relationship. Consider sending your partner love notes just because they mean a lot to you.
3. 3. Give gifts. In addition to giving your significant other gifts on holidays and birthdays, it’s important to show them your appreciation regularly. Send your partner a gift on occasion just because you love them.
4. 4. Know your partner’s love language. Every person has their own unique set of preferences for giving and receiving love in a romantic relationship. Early on in your relationship, ask your partner what types of gestures—whether that’s gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, or physical touch—make them feel valued. For example, if your partner’s love language is physical touch, make sure you hold their hand, give them hugs, and cuddle with them often.
5. 5. Listen attentively. Couples stuck in their typical routine may forget the importance of listening attentively to their partner and not tuning out when they speak. Show attentiveness by giving your significant other your full attention and making eye contact when they talk.
6. 6. Make time for your partner. Rather than waiting for a special occasion to plan an outing with your partner, schedule regular date nights to keep up with quality time. Brainstorm romantic ideas you know they’ll enjoy, like going to their favorite restaurant or bringing home a nice bottle of wine to share over a homemade dinner.
7. 7. Show physical affection. Hold hands, cuddle while watching a movie, and kiss your partner on the cheek to physically demonstrate your romantic feelings for them.
8. 8. Surprise them. If your partner likes surprises, think of a romantic surprise you could arrange. Recreate your first date, plan a party, send them a love letter at work, or schedule a relaxing getaway, all of which can make your partner feel special and loved.

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