How to Be a Supportive Partner in a Relationship

Being a supportive spouse or significant other involves meeting your partner’s needs. There are many different kinds of support you can offer your partner. Perhaps your partner needs validation, empathy, or acceptance. Maybe they need a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or someone who can pitch in and do chores around the house. Support isn’t just a factor in romantic relationships—it’s also the foundation of strong bonds with friends, family members, and other close confidants.

There are several reasons why it’s important to support your partner.

1. 1. To create a stable relationship: A supportive relationship aims to meet the needs of each partner when they arise. Couples benefit from consistency—knowing their partner will be there for them through good times and bad.
2. 2. To boost self-esteem: Supporting your partner can improve their self-esteem and make them feel valuable and important.
3. 3. To improve mental health: Going through hard times alone can take a toll on a person’s mental wellness. A supportive partner can help their loved one process difficult emotions in a safe and nurturing environment. This helps build trust and also positively impacts mental health.

Consider these pieces of relationship advice to become a more supportive partner:

1. 1. Practice active listening. Active listening means you’re giving your partner your full attention when they’re speaking to you. Put down your phone, maintain eye contact, and express interest in what they tell you. Little things, like nodding in understanding, or a comforting gesture, can go a long way in making your partner feel that their point of view is respected and validated.
2. 2. Know when to give your partner space. Giving your partner some alone time might seem counterintuitive, but sometimes it’s the most supportive thing you can do. Depending on your loved one's personality type, they may want to be alone when going through a difficult time. Before assuming what kind of support your partner needs, ask them if they prefer company or need some alone time.
3. 3. Check-in with your partner regularly. Even when your partner is not actively going through hard times, regular check-ins can make them feel valued. Schedule time to have meaningful conversations. Consider scheduling biweekly or monthly date nights where you set aside time to talk about what’s on both your minds.
4. 4. Show your partner physical affection. Physical affection can strengthen the bond between you and your partner. Sexual intimacy is important in romantic relationships, but so is hugging, holding hands, and cuddling. Physical affection offers reassurance and comfort and can also help with lowering stress levels.
5. 5. Pay attention to your own needs. You’ll likely have a tough time supporting your spouse or best friend when your own needs aren’t being met. Set boundaries and prioritize your own needs, mental health, and well-being. Although it's not uncommon for one partner to need more support than the other from time to time, healthy relationships involve finding a balance so both partners feel supported.

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